The last couple days I think I have learned some really important lessons. But these lessons aren't exactly academic. In fact they aren't at all, they are life lessons.
It started on Tuesday. This semester I'm taking a class called the "Psychology of Effective Living" and on Tuesday my teacher showed a commencement speech by Steve Jobs in 2005. This was a year after he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. To sum up part of the speech, I learned that when he first found out he had cancer he thought he had 3-6 months to live. He had a wife and kids that he would have to leave. But he later found out he had the type that was curable through surgery. From this experience Jobs learned that death is unavoidable and we all have this destiny. So he then decided to be thankful for every new day he has and to live everyday to its fullest. Being grateful for every moment he gets. And if he goes a few days without doing something to make himself happy, then it would be time for a change. He learned to value the time we have on earth. Listening to this speech and knowing that almost a year ago he died, makes me feel happy for him. That he learned to find happiness everyday. He didn't have the longest life but I believe he was happy.
After this I decided it's important to always be happy and grateful. Then Thursday happened. I heard of people who are divorced at a young age. I heard of couples who are married and going through separations or dealing with adultery. And I thought, my trials are far less important compared to these people.
Then today happened. I got an email from the school saying a girl had passed away. Her name was Tyler Sue Norton. I instantly felt sorrow. I knew her. I sat by her everyday my first semester in Book of Mormon and I was in a group with her for a class last Spring. She has been married for about 6 months and she is my age. How sad? I wondered what happened, maybe she had a disease I didn't know about? So I looked her up on facebook. Her husband posted this:
"This is what happened Tyler and I decided to take a last minute trip to my sisters for the weekend to get out of the smoke in Idaho and went Mall hopping on the way through Utah. We ended with getting sushi for dinner and it was way good and we both had a great time. We went to my sisters and watched funny Youtube Videos with her and turned
in at 11:00pm Saturday night. The cuddled and the last thing she said to me was "I had a wonderful time today thank you." We fell asleep and I was woken up by Tyler jolting away from me and gasping unnaturally. I called to her but she would not answer so I got up and turned on the lights to see her pale, not breathing, and her eyes half way open looking straight up. she would gasp about every 15 seconds. I tried giving her mouth to mouth to help her breath but she was not responding and not waking up. I woke up my sister and brother-in-law to help. My sister ran downstairs to the room then passed out and my brother-in-law helped me lift her carefully with the bottoms sheet for more support. We got her in the car and took her to the hospital. They took a CT scan of her brain and found that one of the main arteries of the brain had ruptured and filled her brain with blood. They quickly airlifted her to another hospital where they have brain surgens and he tried to put a catheter in her head to try to drain the fluids that were swelling her brain, but it failed. He wanted to get another CT scan but her vitals were not stabilizing and they had to wait before they could do anything more. They all tried different things to help her stabilize. But nothing worked and while they were waiting the damage was done to her brain and it went dead. They were to afraid to tell me for many hours and finally pronounced her brain dead at 2:00pm on Sunday.
I tried everything I could, but nothing could be done. I am numb right now from all the pain and really don't know what to think."
This just breaks my heart. One day she is happy and healthy and the next she is gone. I guess I just can't grasp the fact that this nice girl I knew from school is now gone from this earth. But at the same time it warms my heart that she found someone who she loved and married in the temple. One day her husband will be reunited with her and I can't even imagine what their reunion will be like.
This story helped me realize the importance of living every moment in happiness. It made me so happy to think that the last thing she said to her husband was loving.
I'm so grateful for my husband. We have such a great marriage which is so rare in today's world. I'm also grateful that we have the potential of an eternal marriage because of the covenants we have made in the temple. Because if something were to happen tomorrow, I don't know what I would do. I feel my way to find happiness everyday is spending time with my husband. But keeping an eternal perspective is a great blessing,
So from the things I have learned and heard this week, I want to remember everyday to be happy. I want to live everyday with my husband, and go through trials together to become stronger. I want to grow old and have a beautiful family. I want to travel together. I want to live our dreams together. I'm so thankful for the life I have been given and the people that have touched my life.